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Tuesday, 9 August 2016

●I'm BACK!● Never Give Up.... The Paul Pogba Story!

It's 4:47 a.m in the morning. I'm just waking up. I'm getting a lot of instagram notifications. Yeah... Checked wassup! Behold! it was tags from my friends on the news that Pogba has been signed by MAN UNITED for a whopping world record fee of £89.3MILLION.
WOAH!!!
Now here is the gist....
Do you know how it feels to be rejected? Do you know how it feels to be unproductive in your passion? Paul Pogba's story is the STORY.
In 2012, Pogba was given as a free agent to Juventus for a meagre consideration of £800,000. He had passion for his game but his output displayed on the pitch wasn't a manifestation of his passion.
Pogba had just 3 appearances with no goal in his senior career for Manchester United between 2011- 2012.
Pogba was given as a free agent to Juventus. Sad!!!
4 years later, with so much hard work put into his passion. Late night trainings. Early morning trainings. Defeats, victories,....Pogba kept on going.
I mean if you follow Pogba on instagram, you would see so much hardwork that he puts into football.
Pogba had 124 appearances with 28 goals for Juventus. Pogba won four consecutive Serie A titles, as well as two Coppa Italia, and two Supercoppa Italiana titles for Juventus. Not also forgetting the fact that Pogba emerged as the best young player of the 2014 World cup. Unfortunately he scored his first world cup goal on 30th June, 2014 against my country(Nigeria).. hahaha!
Four years later... it's 2016 and Pogba is the most expensive player of all time in the world with a whopping transfer fee of £89.3 MILLION in pounds i.e €105 MILLION in Euros and $116 MILLION in dollars.
How? How come? I mean this is a guy that was given as a free agent to Juventus with a meagre consideration of £800,000 barely 4 years ago. Now worth £89.3MILLION??
WOAH!!! I never hepperereiit!! This ridicules reasoning.
Pogba is now described by his club, Manchester United (who gave him out as a free agent 4 years ago) as a "powerful, skilful, and creative" player who has "an eye for goal and a penchant for the spectacular."
I mean this is a lesson for all. Never give up on your dreams . Work hard. Your input or passion may not be paying off now but don't give up. You are a student,singer, actor, producer , blogger or what have you.... never give up on yourself. You would be worth your hardwork someday. Success takes time. Time heals everything.
And like Pogba said today in his interview
...."I feel like I went on holidays.. I'm BACK", you would soon be done with your holidays in struggles and would be BACK on success. And always remember that every hustler has a pay day.
YOU MAY JUST BE THE NEXT POGBA!!!!
●itoro_etim●

Friday, 29 July 2016

THE FRIEND ZONE IS A SEXIST MYTH

The Friend zone isn’t real. The idea that every “Nice Guy” is owed a romantic relationship by his female friends is ridiculous. And if you think that’s not what Friend zoning is about, it absolutely is.
I’m being gender-specific about ‘’the friend zone’’ because it’s mostly used against the girls while the guys prefer to call the girls they are sexually engaged with but don’t love a ‘’SIDE CHICK’’.
The idea that when a girl decides that you’re her friend, you’re no longer a dating option. You become this complete non-sexual entity in her eyes, like her brother, or a lamp is what friend zone is deemed to be.
To some degree, the assumption of every guy claiming to be “friend zoned” is that if they indicate an interest in one of their friends, she is in some way obligated to return the interest, and reward it with a relationship. This assumption is problematic for a whole host of reasons, but most in that it ignores choice. Everyone has the right to say “Yes” or “No” to someone’s romantic or sexual interest. There is no obligation to return interest, and if a person rejects you, it does not make them an awful person. Especially when that person is your friend.
I understand that rejection sucks. It hurts and its heart breaking when someone you like, want to have a relationship with doesn’t return that interest. However, no one is obligated to be interested in you or want those things with you. While sex or relationship may very well be a human need, it is not something anyone has a right to, and thus we are not “owed” it.
Underlying the promulgation of friend zoning is the idea that a female friend who rejects her guy friend’s advances is a bad person, and is a bad person in part because she sees her friend as just that-a friend. To me, Friend zoning breaches the natural right of girls to make choices because girls are not machines that you put kindness coins into until relatioship falls out.” ROGER THAT!!! because that underlines the inherent sexism in friend zoning. That women should in any way be obligated to reciprocate sexual or romantic interest completely undermines the notion of women as autonomous people with the right to make their own decisions, and especially the right to make their own decisions about romantic relationships and sex.
I’m really saying all these because I’ve had a personal experience. I’ve been a friend to a girl in my class for roughly two years now. We are best of friends. Her name is Stephanie. Some of my course mates,( I won’t readily call them friends because no friend would not want to understand my friendship with the opposite gender) started making jokes about my friendship with Stephanie, saying that I’ve been FRIEND ZONED. But as a reasonable man of prudence, born with all my reasoning faculties functional by default, I didn’t let that affect my friendship with her because if I can be friends with guys, nothing stops me from being best of friends with a girl who by nature is so beautiful, awesome ,and kind.
No person is ever obligated to return romantic interest. That we penalize and antagonize women who reject men interested in them is sexist, and, to beat a dead horse, stands against the idea that men and women are equal.
If a guy determines he is interested in a woman, there are a few obvious courses of action. If he has just met her, he can indicate his interest in her. At that point, it is the woman’s choice to either return his interest or to reject him. If a guy doesn’t realize his interest in a woman until they are already friends, he can tell her how he feels. There is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is to react to rejection by the girl by referring to her as ‘’that idiot wey been wan friend zone me’’ or b*tch or what have you and complaining about how you were just a “nice guy” unfairly trapped in the friend zone.
There are NO CIRCUMSTANCES under which a person is obligated to be in a relationship with another. That is what consent is all about. Everyone has the right to say “Yes” or “No” to any romantic relationship encounter, and everyone has the right to give, or not give, consent and to have that decision be respected.. No man who disrespects consent or the idea of consent is a gentleman or “Nice Guy.”
Beyond that, friend zoning suggests that all women are good for is sex. When a man laments the three years he wasted as a friend of a woman, only to be romantically rejected at the end of it all, he invalidates the idea that this woman might have any other worth beyond sex. The reward of being someone’s friend is not sex, it is friendship. If you are actually this person’s friend then their friendship is a really awesome reward.
As friend zoning gets an increasing amount of attention the dialogue around friend zoning has begun to change. The voices that recognize that women are people worthy of friendship and worthy of having their choices respected are beginning to dominate the conversation, and are delegitimizing the friend zoning phenomenon. Hopefully with this dialogue shift we can see the death of the “Nice Guy,” and focus instead on the people in our lives who are truly awesome people worthy of friendship, and if both parties desire, more.
I’m not trying to woo the girls by writing this article neither do I want to be controversial but I’m just talking sense to the ones that would listen. Really, I can’t keep quiet when it’s my generation that is labouring under this ignorance.
PEACE!✌
~ITORO ETIM~

Thursday, 14 January 2016

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR ? GO GET IT !!!!!!!!

What's life without risk?
I believe that if you take none ,that's probably what you going to get from life "NONE"
If I'm to be honest, I hate lazy friends
I hate greedy friends too
I want to use this moment to appreciate every young person turning himself/herself into a CEO
That's what dreams are all about "JUST STARTING UP SOMETHING "
Shout out especially to the girls who want to be successful rather than dreaming of marrying a successful man
Just know that you girls are the finest
Cos I love young girls but not girls young minded
Those that shine with you but they won't get blinded
Of course everyone has been broken at one point or the other on their way to success but don't let that break the dream
I believe that working to be a better you breeds success more than competition
Cos to be me RESPECT LAST LONGER THAN A CHEQUE
I wish to recognise those that I dream with
I believe that I ain't rich till my whole team rich
LET'S JUST GO GET THIS THING CALLED "SUCCESS"
PEACE!!!!
Itoro_Etim

Tuesday, 17 November 2015

...AND I CRIED

I wish my father was alive
I wish he was there
I wish he was there to smile with us
I wish he was there to share in the joy,happiness,laughter.
I wish he was there to walk with mum out to the traditional marriage scene as tradition demands
I wish he was there to walk my elder sis down the aisle as it's supposed to be.
WHERE WAS HE?
And I cried deep down me because I felt his absence all over me
I imagined the smile on his face as the proud father of the bride
I imagined his dancing steps.
Although I know was not much of a dancer but I'm sure he would have at least done something that looks like a dance and that would have been enough.
WHERE WAS HE?
MAY HIS GENTLE SOUL REST IN PEACE,AMEN.
Today I'm happy for my elder sister.She finally got married to the man of her dreams. Why state the obvious when the unending joy was written all over her sweaty face and all the curves of her lips.Today I believe that truly love exists. I don't know how it exists but I just know it exists. Just wait till the right time and you'll buy my idea about love's existence.
I'm happy because I can not just wait to be called an ''UNCLE''. You know the joying of waking up to hear ''UNCLE GOOD MORNING''. LOL, FUNNY RIGHT? I'm happy for my mum too. Indeed she is a proud mum and now a mother-in law. I wish my elder sis a happy married life. I wish and her new family unending joy,happiness. I pray for God's word to be their foundation.
BYE ELDER SIS AND LET MUM, KID SISTER AND I ENJOY THE HOUSE ALONE.lol
And before I forget, I wish myself a good wife too in future. LOL.

PHOTOS of the traditional marriage, wedding, and thanksgiving are below.